The Sweetness of Being Alone

26 Jun

 It was a fine Monday morning. It drizzled for a little bit so the plants outside looked fresh with an illusion of dew drops on them. When the light raining stopped, I decided to grab some breakfast in one of my favorite places with the one person I know would enjoy that kind of cool romantic weather: Myself.DSC_0820I wore this midnight blue dress. Paired it with a red bag. Threw on a vibrant scarf bought by my dad for me from Cambodia. And put my hair up. I wanted to look a little presidential. (Well, i tried haha).

Hailed a cab and fifteen minutes after, I was in my happy place.  🙂

11677_1628603567375098_3801252453598771415_nBreadtalk, Greenbelt. haha. That time, this bakery-cum-cafe has just newly opened so not a lot of people have heard about it yet. I’ve been going to this place for when I want to spend time alone and almost always, I was lucky enough to have the entire second floor all to myself.

10941873_1628603614041760_4719583808677018106_nOrdered some bread (not in the photo), and then went on to savor this perfect tiramisu cake with a coffee latte on the side. I spent around two hours pretending I was in a cafe in Paris,  eating slowly my very french food (pastries and coffee, don’t argue lol) while writing on my journal and evaluating my life.

It was a very inspiring moment, what with my delicious food and the music being played. Famous songs were made mellow by the bossa nova beat. Viva La Vida. how very apt.  Life is indeed worth celebrating, however simple. 🙂

My date was very pleased. She has always loved this kind of leisure. For her, being with me was always a dear experience, in its own understated way.


Then we both wondered, why are a lot of people so scared of being alone? If they only see past the part where they think being seen hanging out with no one but themselves will make them a loser, perhaps they’d also discover the secret sweetness there is in dining out alone, seeing a movie alone, walking nearly a mile alone with just our music and our thoughts as company.


Now don’t get me wrong – being with friends is great. But don’t you crave for a day where you don’t have to consider anybody else’s preferences, taste, time or budget? Where your decision is only yours to make. Where you can embrace your hidden weirdness without having to fear judgment (no matter how light) from others?

But more importantly, spending time with ourselves once in a while gives us some space to reflect on our lives. Are we currently where we want to be? Have we been good persons lately? What are the things we need to improve on to be better versions of ourselves? What do we do next, what do we have to change so that we can be happier? Sometimes, we are too busy attending to others we lose our own identity and we forget our dreams and plans for ourselves. Being alone once in a while provides us some time to assess our own lives and it  gives us an opportunity to plan them accordingly, without any external elements influencing our thoughts and mindset.

1013818_1628603160708472_7354091152858560580_n So go ahead… find your own happy place and try to treat yourself once in a while. Find comfort in the company of yourself and free your spirit from the dictates of society. Take a selfie. Photograph your food. Talk to strangers that you will never meet again. Pretend you’re a princess, or a pretty Parisienne (ehem). Find joy in immersing yourself with your own thoughts or in silently observing the world around you. Trust me, it’s not that hard. 🙂



9 Responses to “The Sweetness of Being Alone”

  1. rz June 26, 2015 at 11:15 am #

    Love this outfit! You look great 🙂

  2. Sugared In Style June 28, 2015 at 9:01 am #

    Beautiful outfit 🙂 I am a new fashion and baking blogger on wordpress. Hope you can check it out and give me your feedback!

  3. carrieslifestyle June 29, 2015 at 5:56 am #

    great pics
    Posts online about Vienna, Provence, Buenos Aires….

  4. Pru Yeo June 29, 2015 at 12:17 pm #

    Really chic outfit and the cake looks so delicious too! Thanks for sharing!



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