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In Harmony

6 Jun

I’ve been reading this book by Dr. Wayne Dyer  called “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life” . It discusses the principles of Taoism by translating the Tao-Te-Ching into the modern day context. It has so far enlightened me on how to live life in harmony with our nature, our source of creation, our inner God.



I learned that the Tao’s main antithesis is ego.  Every unhealthy thing that we are doing is because of ego – our tendency to obsess over something and to strive to the point of exhaustion, our love for worldly possessions, our desire for favors, status, accomplishments and titles, and our inclination to pass judgment on other people are all UNNATURAL and are driven by ego. This book teaches its readers how to live free from pride and vanity — and it goes way deeper than our common understanding of these terms.

blog26Ego, as defined by this book, is not only about our desire to be better than  other people or to project an image before them. It actually is more dangerous when what starts taking over us is the ego that we have against ourselves. For example, we chase people that we like even though it is clear that they don’t like us because our ego wants us to prove something to ourselves – that we are capable of achieving something unobtainable, or that being rejected means we are not good enough.

P_20160326_090931_BFWhen I read about this, i began double-checking my actions. Now, I am trying my best to distinguish if the pain or sadness I am feeling is really from the heart or if it is actually just pride. If it’s the latter, I dismiss the feeling. I tell myself “Let it go, Janica. It’s just your ego talking.”


The book explains that we are already perfect as we are, without doing anything more, because we are created in the image of God (yes the author seems to be a believer of  Christ and it is amazing how he reconciles the Tao-Te-Ching and the Bible). If we start believing that we already are enough, and we already have enough, then it is so much easier to “let go and let God”. The only thing we need to do in this world is to trust our inner calling and do the things that we love just because — without seeking validation from external forces, without obsessing over outcomes, and without trying too hard.  We just need to just be… and all the blessings will naturally follow. 

blog33Parisian shoes, Unica Hija bag

P_20160326_090832_BFdress from a Thrift Shop

blog24“Simply Allow” – we only need to allow things to happen to our lives. We only need to welcome the possibilities. We do not need to try so hard all the time to make something work. SIMPLY ALLOW.

Oh how I relate to this part of the book so much. I swear every sentence that I read resonates to my inner core. I have been a witness of both: I have tried the unnatural way of forcing things to transpire (mostly love life related) and I always end up hurting myself. I have also tried the way of the Tao where I just continuously do something because I love doing it (without any expectation of reward), then I stop when the work is done – i let go, so to speak, and just trust that I am in a good place (mostly career related), and I swear to God everything has worked out so well for me! Blessings overflow in this department!


“Stop pushing yourself, and feel gratitude and awe for what is“. Of course this is not to say that we all should be lazy. That is not the way of the Tao. What it is saying is that once the work is done then it is time to stop, relax and do nothing further. Effort and non-effort are both crucial in living harmoniously with our nature. It is one of the many paradoxes of life.

P_20160326_091058_BFI am not done reading the entire book yet but I’ve gotten so many insights and tips on how to live life well.I don’t know how it hooked me but it did. Of course it is not that easy to apply all the Taoist teachings to my life right away. But I would like to try to minimize my “unnatural” habits.

Good evening! 🙂

pictures taken by my mom in her garden 🙂


Birds of Paradise

26 Aug

Last night while having dinner, I told my mom that I’ve subscribed to some garden / country-living blogs and I thought she’d gain a good following too if she would start her own. But since she is kinda “computer-illiterate” (i’m being kind by using “kinda” lol) I dismissed the idea right in her face haha. 😛

1394196_629207990451519_414266481_nI envision my future dream house to be a simple (beach) cottage (somewhere Florida-, Australia- or Tuscany-like) with a beautiful front or back yard. In this regard, I’ve always wished to have my mom’s green thumb. Unfortunately, all I could do is behold from afar the beauty her hands could produce. And maybe, blog about it for her. 😉

75509_629207977118187_729313092_nI think having a home that we are so in love with is very enriching to the soul. Imagine waking up everyday to a beautiful surrounding, with colorful flowers silently greeting us “good morning”. That kind of feeling must be priceless. It makes you want to be a cheerful and kind person for the rest of the day! haha.

998318_629208200451498_1056068427_nMom doesn’t have to buy artificial ornaments to display in the house. Her vases are adorned with flowers that are freshly picked from the outside. Each week is a different concoction which will delight any person that gets easily bored (like me). 1382810_629208370451481_1475356819_nSomeday, I’ll have my own place and I swear I will make it as pretty, relaxing and inspiring as it could possibly be. And yes, I will have lovely (and fresh) centerpieces like this too.

944273_629208383784813_2069810079_nAaaaaaah. I can’t wait to have my own house already! Meanwhile, I shall work hard and save hard and just continue dreaming and blogging about my aspirations in life.  🙂 ❤

I hope these photos inspired you today! 🙂 Have  a great day!! ❤

Flamboyant Africa

29 Jun

I’m in love with the African fashion. I like the prints, and the patterns, and the bold and bright colors of their dresses. I love the statement their headwraps/ turbans make. I love their chunky beads and bangles that somehow, someway,  work well with all the busy-ness going on. It goes all out! And it doesn’t restrain itself. This kind of style doesn’t believe in “less is more”. If you talk african fashion, more IS more and more is worth flaunting. I personally think this style gives off a very creative yet powerful vibe.

I’m sharing some of my fashion sketches that are very much inspired by the elements I mentioned above. Hope y’all like them. 🙂

pics16There was a time when I got addicted to head wraps. I own several scarves of different colors, prints, and designs and I started being creative with them and used them as DIY turbans during the time that my hair was (awkwardly) growing out from its bald state.  During that time, i would easily get bored not being able to style my hair different ways and headwraps were my solution to that boredom.


My personal style is heavily influenced by the African culture. Sometimes, I feel like i’ve embraced it too much.

It’s kind of funny that I’m always mistaken for a foreigner here in the Philippines. Usually, it’s the cab drivers that make such observation, especially when I hail them to go to Greenbelt. They would think I am either an African-American, or a mixed African-Asian. And I’m always amused by this. haha 🙂


I will not go as far as the (in)famous Rachel Dolezal has gone by saying I “identify” as black, but I do like the unique fashion of Africa very much. hihi. ^_^ That’s why many of my fashion sketches/illustrations are inspired by it. I just find it very daring, very unforgiving, very flamboyant. Very symbolic of my personality.  😉


So that’s it for today! Hope you had fun with this post! I’ll be posting more of my work on this blog soon. Indulge me! LOL

Meanwhile, I shall go to bed because I’m really exhausted. 🙂


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A Charmed Life, Signing In.

14 Jun

Finally. I’m on a break. Summer vacation came late for me but it arrived nonetheless. And I’m just really glad.

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It was a tough semester I would say and an awful long one too, what with my craziness hitting me mid-term giving me the idea to file for a leave of absence. I was juggling a  20 unit (+ 2 unit hold-over for my thesis) load when for this semester we were supposed to enroll only 12. And it surely drove me nuts. I did want, somehow, to graduate on time but well I failed a class so that isn’t happening for me anymore, but that’s alright. To be honest, I did not feel bad at all when I learned that Prof. Legarda failed me (oooops namedrop much? lol I don’t really care i’m a pretty honest person and indifferent of other’s judgment for the most part 😛 so forgive me for selling out myself haha)  But I digress.  As I was saying, as much as I wanted to get law school over with, I didn’t feel even an ounce of disappointment after I failed. I did ponder as to why. At first I thought maybe it was because i’m that detached from law school but i shrugged the idea off after realizing the real reason: Perspective.


Just recently, I found out that one of my friends is currently battling cancer. I heard the news around the time grades were being released in school.  I’ve always thought people with such ailment must be having a very hard time just accepting their fate and I’ve always wondered how and where they get the motivation to fight. If it were me, i don’t know what I’d do. I kind of dwelt on this existential thought for a while so that when I was informed I failed my CivLawRev Class, i couldn’t care less about it anymore. I mean really, why should I feel bad about something so petty and trivial when other people around me are facing much more serious challenges in life?  Not graduating on time is not even a problem worth a minute of worrying. If anything, I should be thankful I woke up this morning.

inspirational-quotes-obless It’s amazing how gaining the right perspective can re-shift our feelings and responses towards certain failures or unfortunate events that we experience.  It makes us more grateful and helps us focus on the brighter side of life.

Oh and while we’re on the topic of failing and losing some and being okay about it, i might as well say that me and my almost-boyfriend broke up 8 or 10 days ago. I think i’ll tell more of this in another post but what I want to say is that I didn’t cry when we bid farewell, which if you know me well enough, is kind of bizarre. I consider it an achievement though. I’ve grown and I’m rather proud of myself. 🙂

19210_955005661178822_9138686913533021491_n So, although since there’s no pseudo-boyfriend getting in the way right now and no law school to worry about, i now have enough time to build up this site. I’ve always dreamed of launching a blog that talks about something inspiring and beautiful.

To my friends who’ve enjoyed reading Malcolmfabness, i hope you all find this new one much more interesting, meaningful and just over all better. I will talk about my plans for this blog and what it’s gonna be all about later on, but for now allow me to just say…. here’s  A Charmed Life, signing in 🙂 Snapshot_20150324_8 Inspired by this post? feel free to share d page to others and lets spread positivity t to those who need it!